The Amateur 

 

Written by Tamara Pool​

 

Our culture is fast-paced, independent, and entitled. We want ethically sourced yet beautifully packaged things ready for pickup or delivery in two hours. We rate the product, producer, delivery driver, packaging, and the store where we placed the order. This atmosphere of critical immediacy shapes our subconscious into believing that we are also rated by our production quality and timeliness. If we can’t do something well enough and fast enough…we can’t do it!

 

Stop.

 

Pause. 

 

Think. 

 

What if we stop to turn that into a question: Can’t we do it? What’s stopping us? Time? Fear? Social rating systems?

 

The problem isn’t perfectionism - it’s professionalism, and professionalism blinds us to possibility. What is there in the space between the professional who is trained and titled and the “I can’t do that!” mindset? Our frame is too small. What if the goal isn’t to become professional? Widen the frame to include the amateur. Amateurism welcomes us to wonder at possibility.
 

The amateur knows that she is not burdened with talent. She must work to hone her craft. She joyfully seeks resources, mentors, and peer-critique. She welcomes her titled disclaimer, “I’m an amateur.” She has the freedom to fail and grow and fail again. Amateurism is skill-building.

 

The amateur works on her craft out of love and embraces the growth as it comes. She rejoices in stolen moments improving her skill, whether it be care-giving, crocheting, or gardening. She doesn’t have to choose just one skill. She may enjoy many and at differing levels of expertise. Amateurism is interdisciplinary.

 

The amateur gratefully accepts accolades for small successes, resisting the pressure to turn success into a business model or side hustle. She volunteers her services and helps “at cost” or for “whatever you think is ok.” Any project deadlines are self-imposed and flexible. Amateurism is hustle-free.

 

The amateur recognizes the honor in her chosen position. Because she studies, she knows the level of her ability. She encourages those whom she can teach, and she learns from those who carry more experience and skill. She sees firsthand how her low or unpaid loving labor fills gaps left by professional services while recommending professionals when they are needed. Amateurism is honorable.

 

Being an amateur is delightful. It opens doors to independence and interdependence. Amateurs develop personal skills while building relationships - especially in the world of caregiving. It has become standard to outsource caregiving services that were previously done by relatives in our homes. There is a time to call on a professional and a time to outsource, but we must consider first if something personal will be lost in the transfer of labor. If we reframe our expectations, we may soon see the wide open spaces for amateurs and embrace our own ability to learn, grow, and become what is needed to lovingly care for ourselves and our community. Amateurism is caring.